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The Song In Dreams By Roy Orbison

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 A dream is an especially difficult thing to describe and dreams aren’t concrete until they come to pass.

 Before then they are like clouds and when both of us look at a cloud you may see one thing while I see another. And the picture you see in one moment may quickly change when the first wind comes along.

 As time goes by-a day, a week, or a year-you may not even remember what you saw. That’s why they say one way to make you dream more concrete is to write it down the second it comes to you because it can flee as fast as it comes. When it comes to giving voice and life to their dreams most people need some help.

Roy Orbison is an American singer-songwriter and he is well-known for his distinctive, powerful voice, complex compositions, and dark emotional ballads.

The Words To Roy Orbison’s song “In Dreams” for the ones we love and are gone.

In Dreams a candy colored clown they call the Sandman. Tiptoes to my room every night just to sprinkle star-dust and to whisper: ” Go to sleep, everything is alright” I close my eyes then I drift away into the magic night. I softly say oh, smile and pray Like dreamers do. Then I fall asleep to dream my dreams of you, in dreams…I walk with you. In dreams…I talk to you.

In dreams your mine all the time we’re together In dreams… In dreams. But just before the dawn I awake and find you gone. I can’t help it …I can’t help it. If I cry. I remember that you said goodbye to end all these things and I’ll be happy in my dreams. Only in dreams in beautiful dreams I love to dream especially when I have a beautiful dream about someone I love. Don’t you?

Women Aren’t Perfect…

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 It’s a new day twenty-century grandmothers are a new kind of breed. I know – I am one. Look around you and you will see that Baby Boomers are changing the face of grandparents. Many have discretionary income and are shrewd in the ways of the world.

Yes, Baby Boomers have a lot of experience and wisdom to share. To state the obvious we are rich in years. Years of love, laughter, joy, sadness, trails, and temptations many years, many lessons.

We’ve seen a lot, from the invention of the television to the landing on the moon, from laptops to smart phones.  Baby Boomers are empowered by the fact that we have become the single largest economic group in the United States today. We are educated and increasingly well-preserved. Our social cultural and economic impact on our country has been unprecedented in history.

They can afford spending money on life’s little luxuries. Don’t be surprised when you see Baby Boomer’s hop on their motorcycles to take a road trip or find them spending an evening in front of their fifty inch flat screen T.V. home theater system or booking a trip to Paris. I am convinced Baby Boomers are at the early stages of what promises to be a long-term  and lucrative love affair with life. They aren’t just writing a new chapter of their lives they’re writing brand new books.

If you’re a first time grandmother, beloved veteran, or a grandma in waiting, you have at one time or another felt the impact, of being part of the  Baby Boomer generation. Like me you might have realised that it doesn’t matter how well-educated you are, how many children you have raised, or how many books you have read about parenting, that in some ways you feel like you are a sham.

Oh! I don’t mean to offend anyone, but do you just find yourself shaking your head and wondering how you did it all?  I sure do! Do you agree that some women just can’t admit they didn’t do it all? I think that the reason some Nana’s are a sham is because they never admitted that they didn’t have it all together when they were young mothers. And they are not about to admit they don’t have it all together as grandmothers either. I can’t help but wonder if this commercial had something to do with the perfect mother and grandmother syndrome.

Do you remember the retro commercial Enjoli ? ” I’m a Woman” it was popular in the 1980’s. It goes something like this: I can put the wash on the line, feed the kids, get dressed and hand out the kiss’ and get to work  nine to five cause I’m a woman. Enjoli the new eight-hour perfume for the twenty-four hour woman.  I can bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan and never, never let you forget you’re a man.

So as young mothers if we were all that, then being a grandmother should be like a walk in the park. Or is all just a sham?  I wonder! Maybe we can’t do it all, and it would be better to admit it. It’s hard for women, to allow the  people in our lives to lend a helping hand. I wonder! How much of a role does the media play in our lives?

When Letters Were Written…

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Writing letters can be a lot of fun. When we write a letter to a friend or a relative, it’s called a friendly letter.  A friendly letter (or informal letter) is a way of communicating between two people. Who are usually well acquainted.

There are many uses and reason’s for writing a friendly letter and friendly letters will usually consist of a topic on a personal level. Friendly letters can be printed or hand-written. Hand written letters are known for many reasons such as a “The Dear John” letter or a “ The Love Letter.”

I grew up in the fifties and sixties when letters were written. Writing and mailing a letter, post card or a holiday card was the only way I could connect with my long distant friends and family.  Sometimes I would type a letter but most of the time they were hand written. I liked the personal touch. I wasn’t allowed to make  long distance calls unless I could pay for them. So, the price of a stamp it was. Except on special occasions I could pick one person to call for a few minutes.

The first hand written letter that I received was from my grandmother. She lived in Massachusetts and I lived in California. Being a long distant grandmother was definitely a challenge for her but lucky me she was creative a writer and her letters made reading and writing fun for me. I always looked forward to receiving her letters because she had a way of sparking my imagination. Who doesn’t enjoy having their imagination sparked?  It’s because of our letter writing that we managed to maintained a close relationship.

 The letters from my grandmother have become part of my favorite keepsakes. I read them and re-read the letters over and over. It seems like I have read them a million times but that would be an exaggeration.

My grandmother was a busy woman and she still managed to write letters to all fourteen of her grandchildren. She worked as a school teacher for over thirty years. She was known as Nana to fourteen grandchildren. She was happily married for over sixty years and the mother of four children. My grandfather wrote a love letters to her on each of their wedding anniversaries. She out lived him by two years and she kept every letter that he had written to her. How romantic is that? When I think about how wonderful those letters are I wish we still wrote letters today. 

A Poem Called Grandma Wings

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This is a poem called ” Grandma Wings” author unknown. The other day when I read it I started to image what it would be like if grandmothers really had Grandma Wings. I hope that you enjoy reading this poem and my thoughts about it.

“GRANDMA WINGS AUTHOR UNKNOWN”

 I wonder where you keep your wings? Are they in your closet, with the rest of your stuff?  Do you put them away, and just use them at night?  Do give them to grandpa to polish up bright? I know you have wings, for this is true. Because God, always gives them to Angles like you!  I wish that I had a pair of wings. That would be awesome. Wouldn’t it?

Can you image?  The places we could go if you had angel wings? If I had angel wings, I would go to the heaven’s. I would ride with my grandkids grandpa, on his heavenly motorcycle. What would you do?

 We know that angels exist. We know God uses them, to send his messages and the angles meet among us. The holy angels never draw attention to them-selves. They typically do their work and disappear. We are told, that these heavenly beings are invisible. Being created by God for his service. They are mentioned 294 times, in more than half the Biblical books. The books record the activities of angels as serving as warriors, guardians,delivers, messengers, instruments of praise. It’s awesome, to read that grandmothers have a lot in common with angles? Isn’t it?

Use Your Imagination

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Hold your breath and make a wish then Count to three! Come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination.

 Take a look and you’ll see into your imagination. We’ll begin with a spin traveling in the world of creation. What we’ll see will defy explanation.

If you want to view paradise simply look around and view it do you wanta change the world? There’s nothing to it there is no life I know to compare with pure imagination. Living there you’ll be free if you truly wish to be. If you want to view paradise simply look around and view it. Wanta change the world? There’s nothing to it and there is no life I know to compare with pure imagination living there.

You’ll be free if you truly wish to be now hold your breath, make a wish, and count to three.” Doesn’t that describe how we feel in many situations in life? For some of us it can be when our son or daughters call us and ask, Mom are you sitting down? I have something to tell you and we wait with bated breath in a state of suspenseful anticipation, as they say “We are going to have a baby”.

Come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination and take a look and see into your imagination.” As I read these words it reminds of the first two years of life and it’s a season when a child’s imagination is pure. When we find out that a family is expecting a baby right away imaginations are sparked and we think to ourselves what color are the baby’s eyes?  Will they be the color of his or her mother, father, aunt, uncle or maybe a grandparent or a great-grandmother that we loved so much.  

Then we wonder what gender is the baby a girl or a boy. Our imaginations travel through the past, present, and future in our imaginations with all kinds of questions about a baby while it’s being created. Don’t we?

We’ll begin with a spin traveling in the world of creation and what we’ll see will defy explanation.” Birth through the toddler years seem to defy explanation one, two, three and we are spinning, traveling together into the world of creation again.

If you want to view paradise simply look around and view it is there anything you want to do, do it. Wanta change the world? There’s nothing to it.” My mom use to say. “It’s not the destination but the journey that counts.” Aren’t we lucky that we have opportunities to spark children’s and grandchildren’s imaginations and that they spark our imaginations too?

Those Wonderful Toddler Years…

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My youngest grandson is in his toddler years and I delight in him. His world is an adventure of discovery. He wants to taste, eat, smell and experience everything in his path. He is faster that a speeding bullet more powerful than a locomotive, Route 66 has nothing on him. Jesse is on the move and most of the time he walks to get to where he is going. Sometimes he seems like a toddler hurricane with gusty winds faster than Katrina and Ike combined. He has been known to blow through the house like a mighty wind.

I find that as my grandson’s toddling is tamed by the love and oversight of his parents. I find myself in the mist of a new but yet a familiar adventure. I can’t begin to tell you how often I have had to resist laughing at the most inappropriate times because Jesse is doing something just the way his dad did it at that age.

The truth is when my children went through a few rough patches as toddlers like          when they were teething or learning to walk. There were a few sleepless nights and a few times they had head on crashes with doors and walls. I remember with humor considering getting my son a helmet while he was learning to walk. I wondered if he was going to walk or fly.

As a young mom I didn’t think those,” I just want to pull my hair out kind of days” were fun and as a grandmother I still don’t. But as a seasoned mother I am more relaxed and confident that our little toddler will be just fine as he developes into becoming a big boy and his parents become pros at this parenting stuff. However I do find myself saying; I can’t believe I did that when my children were that age or how in the world did we ever get through their toddler years?

What is best for babies and toddlers has changed throughout the decades but the one thing that remains the same is the little ones are still teething and mothers still have those I just want to pull my hair out kind of days. When I ask myself how did I make it through parenthood?  I stop and remind myself it was all the love and hugs that we shared that got me through parenthood and them through their toddler years. Now they are loving and hugging their children and experiencing “those I just want to pull my hair out kind of days” and doing a terrific job. It’s amazing how much things change and yet how things still stay the same isn’t it?

 

Mrs. Doubtfire Are We Still A Family?

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In the movie Mrs.Doubtfire a little girl named Katie Mc Komcick writes a letter to Mrs.Doubtfire asking this question: If my parents are separated are we still a family? 

 Uunfortunately this is a question that many children are asking their parents and grandparents in today’s society and Mrs. Doubtfire’s response it worth taking to heart. 

The plot of the movie is about Miranda played by Sally Field who is an interior designer and decides to divorce her husband Daniel because he is irresponsible. Being a working mother of three children she decides to hire a housekeeper and after interviewing many candidates she hires Mrs. Doubtfire who turns out to be her ex husband Daniel played by Robin Williams.

The reason that Daniel decided to create the persona that he was a lovely Scottish sixty year old woman who was seeking a position as a housekeeper was so that he could spend time with his children after to courts said that he could only see  them on  Saturdays. As time goes on Mrs. Doubtfire wins the hearts of Miranda and their children then Mirada discovers that Mrs. Doubtfire is her ex husband and agrees to allow him to see their children as much as he wants.

Mean while Daniels luck changes when he appears as Mrs. Doubtfire in a children’s television program called “Euphegenia House” and it becomes the top rated television show in that time slot.

One day while Mrs. Doubtfire is relaxing in an oversized wingback chair and she receives a letter written by a little girl named Katie and in the letter she asks Mrs. Doubtfire this question: Are we still a family?

Dear Mrs. Doubtfire,

Two months ago my mom and dad decided to separate and not live in the same  house . My brother Andrew said we are not to be a family anymore. Is this true?  Am I to lose my family?  Is there anything I can do to bring them back together?  Mrs. Doubtfire’s response is wonderful and one we should all take to heart.

Dear Katie Mc Komcick,

Some parents when they are angry get along better when they don’t live together sometimes they don’t get back together and sometimes they do. But don’t blame yourself just because they don’t love each other anymore it doesn’t mean they don’t love you and there are many different kinds of families. 

What words of wisdom every child whose parents are separated or divorced needs to be told such kind words of wisdom and have a Mrs. Doubtfire type of women in their lives don’t they?

Isn’t it awesome that the Mrs. Doubtfire’s in our lives come in all kinds of shapes and sizes they may be your Grandmother, Aunt, Neighbor or a Teacher.

They are the ones that we hold close to our hearts because they unconditionally love us through thick and thin, they are our super hero‘s and we are super hero’s in their eyes too.

 They may not be a relative but they are like having an Aunt, Mother, Grandmother and a Best Friend all rolled up in one woman. They are truly amazing aren’t they? They’re down to earth, smart, funny and a little zany. 

They love us and our children unconditionally, they laugh and cry with us, they listen to our concerns about life and they tell us what they think instead of telling us what we want to hear. Some day you might be asked the question.  Are we still a family?  Although the answer may be no not a nuclear family make sure you reassure them that they still belong to a family and are loved. The relationship with your children is more important than the problems between the adults.