A promise is a promise right? If you swore to love for life once why do it again?  The first answer could be: Why not? What harm could it do? Is it the vow itself that is the question? Ah, there’s the rub. You walked down the aisle together once. It was a great day; so great that it could never be repeated. And the knot you tied that day became a gnarl of attachment: kids, deeds, photo albums, possessions galore. So how could you ever part? But if you had to do it all over again, would you? That’s the question that begs answering when second or third wedding vows are on the horizon.

If the answer is “Yes,” then sure, say “I do, I do, I do.” If you answer is “I don’t know, ” then don’t ignore the warning signs. Your feelings for each other will have…

It’s great to reach for the stars but don’t be disappointed if you only get as far as the moon. Love that detonates like an exploding star can disappear into the cosmos just as quickly. Love that grows slowly may never burn quite as brightly as a supernova. but it may deliver more energy over the long run. Remember: It only takes a little spark to start a raging forest fire. Many people are out there searching for their perfect soul mates. They may not know exactly what a soul mate is, but they think they’ll recognize the right person when he or she comes along. Perfection is a wonderful goal. Always settling for second-best can lead to a lifetime of disappointment. But since nobody is perfect, you could spend a lifetime searching and wind up getting nowhere.

So you find a partner. Maybe he or she isn’t perfect…

Grand gestures are fun and they can make your heart soar. But if they only happen once or twice a year, what’s the fun in that? Little gestures are not as splashy and they may even go noticed. But if weren’t for the raindrops, the ocean wound soon be empty. So let your drops of love rain down. When someone loses their sweetheart whom they’ve loved dearly, it’s not the grand gestures that they miss, it’s the little things.

It’s the nightly smile and cup of tea, It’s checking that the front door is locked. It’s the flowers in the vase. It’s getting up in the middle of the night to let the dog out. It’s loading and turning on the dishwasher in the morning. It’s the hugs and holding hands. It’s the good night kisses. Babysitting the kids go she can have a girls night out or her encouraging…

They say that love conquers all, but that’s not really true. Some burdens are so heavy that even love gives away. Sometimes love does grow stronger because of adversity; sometimes you don’t appreciate what you have until you’re in danger of losing it. So don’t stall. Give it your all today, before something goes wrong, before you have regrets, before you’re filled with guilt. 

Think about someone who lost their entire family in some freak accident of nature, no matter how happy you are today, tragedy can strike at any moment. Even if you do draw together because of tragic events, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the tragedy won’t win out in the end.

If you’re not the demonstrative type, don’t let that stop you from sharing the feelings you have for those you love. Write them a note, or go out of your way to do something special for them. If they’re close…

In the bash and crash of daily life , it’s very easy to forget why you love one another: she comes home late for six nights in a row, he’s been short-tempered  and surely no one has said any thing sweet for what seems like ten weeks. It’s at times like that we need to remember the romantic days of falling in love.

In order to nourish and refresh your relationship,try reminding yourself from time to time about the happy hours of your early love. Every love has the ravishing early moments of romance, the sunset walking along the pier, the tear-washed face of good-bye at the international airport, the stolen kisses when your love was still a secret. It’s what you experienced in these moments that you need to remember and share.

Maybe you saw her walking in the garden at the house where you were visiting and her…

You don’t need any special skills to be an artist at love. You just need to always need to always be aware that you are a lover at heart. A painter  mixes colors up with various shades. You must do the same because even love can be boring if it becomes too monotone. So some days, even if you’re not feeling like overly romantic, turn up the heat. Shout “I love you” across the room.

Put a little more oomph into that hug. Not only will your sweetheart appreciate your use of the brighter colors in your palette, but it will probably change your mood as well. Since you “fall” in love, many people treat love as if it were some beast over which they have no control. But you have more say over your emotions than you think. Watch a say movie and you will cry. Dance to your favorite song…

Love that is built upon trust creates an atmosphere in which love can flourish. Trust is the sense that you’re safe with one another, that in your moments of vulnerability, weakness, or great glory, you will not be betrayed. Trust starts from the position of believing that your sweetheart is motivated to a deep concern for you and that he or she, in spite of occasional missteps or mistakes, truly has your well-being in mind.

When you trust and believe that your sweetheart loves you dearly and intends to love you well and long then trust can imagine the best; trust expects the happiest possible outcome. Trust serves with joy in the expectation that trust will be returned. Trust develops trust and acknowledges that you trust the person you love with your life, with your heart, your body and talents, your fears, your children, your worldly goods and it invites…

A wedding is a wonderful day. It’s a celebration of your love for each other. It’s a tying of the knot. It’s the making of two lives into one. It’s a contract for life. But as wonderful as a wedding may be , it does not possess supernatural powers. You and your sweetheart are not going to any different after the two of you exchange vows than you were before.

That may seem obvious, yet it comes as a surprise to many couples who believe that after they are married , they will be able to change their sweethearts into someone else. Where it only so. Most people don’t change. They may deviate from their norm for a bit. They may say they’ll do better and may make promises with the best intentions and still let you down. They may give it the old college try. But they don’t change.

Book lovers adore bookstores. They also enjoy a cup of good coffee or tea while they read. It’s no accident that while many book shops have added refreshment areas where you can purchase a cup of your favorite coffee or tea, coffee houses also sell newspapers and in some cases, books that the shop is promoting. The larger book stores like Barnes and Nobel  or Books A Million offer Wi-Fi so people can enjoy reading on their kindle , nook or whatever electronic gadget they prefer to use.

But if you love the charm of a good old fashion used book store  then you might want to leave you electronics at home and browse through the books themselves just to experience what it use to feel like to hold a book in your hands again. So, if books are your thing, head off for a delightful afternoon of reading and sipping at your favorite local bookstore. Get to know…

You’re not Siamese twins. You’re not supposed to be identical. Each of you have different dreams, assorted appetites, various views, and distinct desires. You may be one couple, but you are also two unique individuals. For your relationship to work and your love to flourish, you also must be equal partners. Couplelom is complex, and so equality has many meanings. One partner is always stronger, smarter, sexier, or more attractive, but that doesn’t mean that the other isn’t also strong, smart, sexy, or attractive.

It’s a balance, and once you start working together, you will find that you both become even stronger, smarter, sexier, and more attractive because you are better together. If the relationship is unbalanced or one partner tires to dominate, then the other is diminished and so is the partnership. Then both partners will lose, because as the relationship weakens, so does each partner.

So even though you’ll both always be different, try to balance the power. That way you each…

Whether it has one room or twenty, your home is your castle. But sometimes your castle can become claustrophobic  and start to feel like the walls  are moving in closer and romance is moving further away.  Doing something as simple as going outside together and getting some fresh air not only replenishes your lungs but can inspire your romance. If people even lovers, are forced together long enough, yawns begin to fill the air, tempers fray, and love disappears.

When the walls start their inward march and cabin fever sets in, there’s a simple prescription to restore your life and your love: a change of scenery. It can be as simple as a walk around the block or as breathtaking as a trip around the block or as breathtaking as trip around the world or anything in between. The important thing is to have a look at some new surroundings that will…

Want a mini vacation that’s almost as fun as it was the first time around?  Try becoming a time traveler and still be home in time to pick up the kids from school. How far? Fix yourself a quick snack curl up in a quiet, comfortable spot, and break out your photos. Go all the way back. Baby pictures? How about that shot of you dancing naked in your crib or

 Here’s one. . . . must have been Halloween. Oops! Sorry. I guess that was the style back then. Prom photos, wedding photos . . . that attractive shot of you in the hospital gown, looking like you just got run over by a Mac truck yet beaming nonetheless as you hold your first-born child.

Making time to put them in photo albums can be a challenge at any age.  My photo albums are fine, but the real treasure troves are the six large girly cardboard  hat…

Words can build your sweetheart up or tear them down so it seems that this saying most that most of us grew up hearing from our parents and school teachers was right,” If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Isn’t it amazing how a simply statement like that is so true?

Even small children learn that language is a very powerful instrument and what they utter gets results. When a baby says, Da, Da  or Ma, Ma for the first that little baby receives some awesome responses and that experience becomes forever ingrained in their parents hearts.

Statements like “You’re Brilliant” or “I Just Love The Way Your Mind Works” and this one, “You Are So Intelligent” spoken to your sweetheart can over time change how your sweetheart sees themselves. If your sweetheart was endlessly yelled at or told they were stupid or maybe they were overly criticized as a child they may not know just how brilliant they are…